What I Believe

Here's what I believe, so you can get to know me better. We don't have to agree on these to have a successful partnership, but it is good for you to know where I'll be coming from. 

  • I believe that small incremental changes from the inside out lead to sustainable change that has tremendous impact in your life – career, relationships, health, you name it.
  • I don't know if thought begets feelings or feelings beget thought, and neuroscience hasn't convinced me one way or another, so let's call it a mystery and move forward. 
  • I believe God is love and also the great allower (see the contemporary Franciscan mystic Richard Rohr for a more thoughtful take on that statement). I attend a Lutheran Church semi-regularly, and identify with being a contemplative mystic. 
  • I believe we can tap into a Universal Mind beyond the analytical mind to help guide our lives more intelligently than our analytical mind ever could (see God, above). However, I firmly believe the analytical mind has a very important place in our life.
  • I love this Arab proverb: Trust in Allah, but tie your camel. I think it sums life up really well. 
  • I believe that changing a core perspective about any one component of your life will impact all the other part of of your life. For example, believing you can integrate 10 minutes of exercise into your life, and that it is a worthwhile endeavor, can improve your relationship with your partner. 
  • I don't believe everything happens for a reason. 
  • I believe when you know what you are looking for it is easier to find. 
  • I believe privilege really matters. I know structural racism, classicism, ageism, ableism, sizeism are painful and real obstacles to realizing your full potential. 
  • I'm socially liberal and believe in smart and dynamic governance.
  • I don't think we treat families as well as we could in the United States.