Do the Work You Are Meant to Do

Coaching for moms* in transition

Take a deep breath and imagine that you have found work that complements your role as a mom. 

I coach moms to connect with their inner guidance to discover the fulfilling work they are meant to do. The modern workplace wasn't created with the reality of motherhood in mind, and the limitations many working mothers find themselves face-to-face with in the working world even has a name: the maternal wall. The limits mothers experience in the realm of work are very real, and also create internalized limitations that reinforce the wall. My coaching can help you to dissolve your internalized limitations and assumptions, and open up a new world of possibilities.

Don't get me wrong, the maternal wall is a very real experience, and I believe we can all work together to dissolve it from many angles.

Here are some ways to know if you could benefit from my support:

  • You want to return to work after an extended absence, and you are overwhelmed by or scared of the process.  
  • You are chronically overworked.
  • You feel out of place where you work. 
  • You want more fulfillment from your work. 

Together we will work to help you gain clarity, direction, courage and a deep sense of purpose to uncover a new world of working possibilities. 

Photo by Nancy Treder

Photo by Nancy Treder

We are likely a good fit for each other if one or more on the list below sounds like you!

  • You are strongly committed to creating change in your life, and you are willing to be held accountable. 
  • You believe that sustainable change comes from the inside. 
  • You are deeply inspired by nature.
  • You enjoy playfulness and creativity. 
  • You love to bring seemingly disparate ideas together. 
  • You are simultaneously driven and very thoughtful. 
  • You are turned off by busyness as a status symbol.

There are boundless potential outcomes of our work together. Past clients have discovered a new calling, created ways of working that allows them more time with their family, realized they don't have to go back to school to get what they want, deeply owned their sense of purpose that serves as a guiding north star -- just to name a few. The fulfilling work transformation you create will be unique to you!

*My program is designed for moms, but works for anyone who wants to transform their limitations.

Working Together

Here's how it works: I offer a complimentary 30-45 minute informational interview for every prospective client by phone. I will give you a taste of what it is like to be coached, and you can ask me any questions you have about what I offer: a transformative program that is designed to identify, experiment with, and integrate the fulfilling change you seek. 

If we decide we are a fit for one another, I will send you an agreement for you to sign along with the information for our foundational session. I will ask that you return the agreement and pay before we begin. 


Typically the difference between a coach and a therapist is that coaches focus on moving forward toward a desired change, and psychotherapists focus on healing the wounds of the past, with both practices utilizing knowledge of human behavior, motivation, behavioral change, and interactive counseling techniques. People who seek coaching are generally in good health and want to accelerate their personal growth, gain clarity, and deepen their relationship with their inner guidance. In contrast, psychotherapy is a health care service people seek out to restore their emotional selves back to health, and frequently reimbursable by insurance. Consultants are experts in a particular field who you hire to help you solve specific problems. A coach will never presume to be an expert on your life.  


Coaches are not subject to government oversight. As a commitment to my clients and my integrity I adhere to the International Coaching Federation's Code of Ethics

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I'm facing big transitions in my life, including a new baby and a new profession. Before I spoke with Kay I felt overwhelmed, convinced that my problems were impossibly complicated. Working with Kay helped me articulate what matters most to me so those values can guide my next move. I now see opportunity -- not just stress -- in transition. 

Sarah Stuteville, WA, 2017

Coaching with Kay was empowering. I got the opportunity to create together with my coach, a vision of what I wanted to accomplish and where I wanted to go. The process of coaching exposed the subtleties of the influence of my 'subconscious' on my present life, and through that process, small but practical and useful changes were added to begin the journey towards my destination. The best part was getting a glimpse of how I could tap into myself and my surroundings to empower my transformative journey. 

KV, MD, 2016

Kay is an excellent coach. She has helped me make choices that move my small business forward and that help me enjoy my free time without always thinking I need to be worrying about work. At the same time I never feel that I've 'hired a business coach' but rather that I have a wise and impartial friend to talk to. Smarts without judgment is one thing I really appreciate about Kay.

FM, WA, 2016

I worked with Kay for a session this summer and she was fantastic. She was thoughtful, reflective, and an out of the box thinker. She pushed me to dig deeper into areas of work and life where I could create positive change, but was always respectful in doing so. I have continued to use the tools that I learned during our session. Thank you, Kay!

EL, WA, 2016

Kay is an excellent listener and she helped me identify specific areas to focus on to be more successful with the topic I was seeking coaching on. She is non-judgmental, intuitive, and wise.

CF, CA, 2015



Take the Next Step

If you have gotten this far, why not drop me a line to learn more. My goal is to find out if we are a fit. I will never pressure you. I look forward to connecting!

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About Me

My path has been punctuated by several meaningful events and realizations along the way, including a profound reckoning with my climb on the career ladder catalyzed by the death of a child and a managed chronic illness that requires me to take careful stock of my energy reserves. Originally from the Black Hills and the Upper Great Plains, I have called Seattle my home for over 19 years. I completed my ICF certified training with Master Coach Patrician Burgin in 2016, and I have Master's Degree in Comparative Religion from the University of Washington. I am also working with the ThirdPath Institute to become an Integrated Life Advocated to help parents in the ongoing process of balancing work and life. I also have worked in writing, editing, and fundraising in the arts and sciences, helping to raise over $14.5 million for various projects and programs. I love to experiment with life: At one time or another I have co-founded an arts and culture magazine, co-founded a fiscal sponsor for artists, played the violin, performed in the theater, competed in gymnastics, learned how to use the command line, learned French and Arabic, and much much more.  

What I Believe

Here are several of my core beliefs to help to get you to know me better. We don't have to agree on these to have a successful partnership.

  • I believe that small incremental changes pack the biggest punch. 
  • I don't think everyone has one calling. Some people have one; some people have many. 
  • I believe that fulfillment is an inside job.
  • I don't know if thought begets feelings or feelings beget thought, and neuroscience hasn't convinced me one way or another, so let's call it a mystery and move forward. 
  • I believe God is love and also the great allower (see the contemporary Franciscan mystic Richard Rohr for a more thoughtful take on that statement). I attend a Lutheran Church semi-regularly, and identify with being a contemplative mystic. 
  • I believe we can tap into consciousness beyond the analytical mind to help guide our lives more intelligently than our analytical mind ever could (see God, above). However, I firmly believe the analytical mind has a very important place in our life.
  • I love this Arab proverb: Trust in Allah, but tie your camel.  
  • I don't believe everything happens for a reason. 
  • I believe when you know what you are looking for it is easier to find. 
  • I believe privilege really matters. I know structural racism, classicism, sexism, ageism, ableism, sizeism are painful and real obstacles to realizing your callings. 
  • I don't think we treat families well in the United States. We need policy- and corporate-level change to improve the integration of our work and lives, and I believe whole life coaching can inspire powerful individuals in decisionmaking positions to create these changes. 
  • I think one of humanity's biggest challenges is to learn how to create economies where people thrive and simultaneously respect our limits and the limits of the natural world. 
  • I'm socially liberal and believe in smart and dynamic governance.